Posts tagged gender roles.

Slut gets thrown at women who are expressive about wanting to have sex. Fag is used against men who don’t constantly display a desire to have sex. In many ways, a woman is a slut if she acts too much like a man is supposed to and a man is a fag if he acts like a woman is supposed to. And both terms are used to shame people into compliance with gender rules, no matter how unrealistic or inauthentic they are.


  • a man can be femme if he damn well wants, regardless of his dsab
  • a woman can be butch if she damn well wants, regardless of her dsab
  • nonbinary folks can be as butch or femme as they damn well want, regardless of their dsab

Any person can:

  • be butch
  • be femme
  • be androgynous
  • genderfuck
  • participate in drag
  • present in ways that are deemed “acceptable” for their gender by cissexist fucks
  • present in ways that are deemed “unacceptable” for their gender by cissexist fucks
  • define the words that are appropriate for their own body (some clits are six inches long, some cocks are just a couple centimeters long if that - deal with it)
  • change any part of their own body however the fuck they want as often as they want (minus culturally appropriative shit or outright oppressive shit - appropriative body mods and racist tattoos aren’t okay no matter who you are)
  • have whatever fucking gender(s) they want (or no gender at all)
  • define their gender and presentation in whatever way they want
  • consensually fuck people with whatever gender(s) they want as long (or not fuck anyone at all)
  • define their sexuality (or lack thereof) however the fuck they want, even if there are occasionally or frequently exceptions to their identified preference
  • have an identity that is as fluid or static as they like
  • disclose or withhold their gender or sexual identity and history as they see fit
  • disclose or withhold information about their body and its history as they see fit as long (as long as withholding that information isn’t a direct physical harm to others)
  • decide for themselves whether or not their gender and sexuality is inherent or “born that way”
  • do any or all of these things at any time, for any reason, regardless of dsab

Why is this so fucking hard? I’m done with binarist, homophobic Trans 101 bullshit that completely misses the mark and just reinforces cissexism.

Fuck your identity policing, fuck your binaries, fuck your bullshit anatomy diagrams trying to tell me the cis-correct words for my own fucking body.

I define my own reality. I define my own body. I define my own identity. Fuck any motherfucker who tries getting in my way of that ever again.

idk what dsab is (maybe someone could explain to me?) but this is an AWESOME post.

(via impromptuonedykedanceparty)

People of all sexes have the right to explore femininity, masculinity—and the infinite variations between—without criticism or ridicule.

Leslie Feinberg (via slugpunx)


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5 Sex Myths Debunked ›

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#sex  #myths  #love  #men  #women  #gender roles  

Hostile versus benevolent sexism ›

Quick jump: Sexism vs Prejudice | Benevolent Sexism | Unintentional Sexism

Typically when people think of sexism, images of cartoon-like villains proclaiming, “Men are stronger and more intelligent than women!” or “A woman’s place is in the home, barefoot and pregnant!” come to mind. Other concepts that might be evoked are workplace and educational discrimination or the wage gap. These adversarial approaches to gender relations are generally termed “hostile sexism”. For the most part, people get why hostile sexism falls under the heading of “sexism”. What’s harder for people to understand as sexist practices, however, are ones that — on the surface — seem to be putting women in a positive light. These beliefs are called “benevolent sexism”.

In other words:

Although benevolent sexism may sound oxymoronic, this term recognizes that some forms of sexism are, for the perpetrator, subjectively benevolent, characterizing women as pure creatures who ought to be protected, supported, and adored and whose love is necessary to make a man complete. This idealization of women simultaneously implies that they are weak and best suited for conventional gender roles; being put on a pedestal is confining, yet the man who places a woman there is likely to interpret this as cherishing, rather than restricting, her (and many women may agree). Despite the greater social acceptability of benevolent sexism, our research suggests that it serves as a crucial complement to hostile sexism that helps to pacify women’s resistance to societal gender inequality.

[Peter Glick and Susan Fiske (American Psychologist Volume 56(2), February 2001, p 109–118): “An Ambivalent Alliance: Hostile and Benevolent Sexism as Complementary Justifications for Gender Inequality”.]

In some ways, benevolent sexism is more virulent than hostile sexism. This is mainly because hostile sexism is often (though not always) recognized as such, and at least a certain amount of lip service is paid to minimizing it. With benevolent sexism, it is not seen as sexism at all but rather a “natural” expression of being male or female (see the But men and women are born different! Isn’t that obvious? FAQ entry for an example of this). Add this to the fact that many of the beliefs and practices of benevolent sexism do work out positively for those women whose values and desires are in line with the traits ascribed to women and men and it becomes easy to see why the traditions that make up benevolent sexism have been subject to so little mainstream critique.

One teachers approach to preventing gender bullying in a classroom


“It’s Okay to be Neither,” By Melissa Bollow Tempel

Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got in line for art, and I noticed that she still had not removed her hood. When we arrived at the art room, I said: “Allie, I’m not playing. It’s time for art. The rule is no hoods or hats in school.”

She looked up with tears in her eyes and I realized there was something wrong. Her classmates went into the art room and we moved to the art storage area so her classmates wouldn’t hear our conversation. I softened my tone and asked her if she’d like to tell me what was wrong.

“My ponytail,” she cried.

“Can I see?” I asked.

She nodded and pulled down her hood. Allie’s braids had come undone overnight and there hadn’t been time to redo them in the morning, so they had to be put back in a ponytail. It was high up on the back of her head like those of many girls in our class, but I could see that to Allie it just felt wrong. With Allie’s permission, I took the elastic out and re-braided her hair so it could hang down.

“How’s that?” I asked.

She smiled. “Good,” she said and skipped off to join her friends in art.

‘Why Do You Look Like a Boy?’

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This is kind of important.



This is kind of important.



Visit the URL to read at article about the new global movement known as Slutwalks. They are raising awareness for a very prevalent and disturbing issue in society today: Victim-blaming.

This is certainly a part of our culture that we NEED to change. Victim-blaming is all to prevalent. Think about it. If you knew someone who dressed provactively or flirted alot and they got raped, what would the first think you think of be? If the answer is “well, maybe she was kinda asking for it,” or ANYTHING along those lines, I urge you to work at yourself to change that.

As Tupac said:

“And since we all came from a woman,
Got our name from a woman,
And our game from a woman,
I wonder why we take from our women,
Why we rape our women,
Do we hate our women?
I think it’s time to kill for our women,
Time to heal our women,
Be real to our women,
And if we don’t, we’ll have a race of babies,
That will hate the ladies,
That make the babies,
And since a man can’t make one,
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one,
So will the real men get up?
I know you’re fed up ladies, but keep your head up.”

Victim-blaming is a backwards move in our society as we try to move towards freedom and equality. If you’re with me, help spread the word. It’s time for us as a culture to start making significant changes, and it starts here.